Cheltenham Counselling Service

Dont be scared

I wish I’d found someone like Chris to talk to years ago!
I was really scared sending her the first email, but I’d reached a point where I just wanted to stop thinking the way I thought. I was tired of being so negative about myself and fed up of hiding away and avoiding as many social situations as I could. I found her online and when I saw ‘Everyone deserves to be happy’ written on her site, I made myself send her a note.
I needn’t have been scared though – from our first meeting, Chris was welcoming, kind and friendly – and after a few sessions with her, I stopped feeling embarrassed and guilty about the things I was saying out loud. Things that I had never said out loud to anyone before.
I can’t really explain how or why talking to someone like Chris works, it just does.
I have a better understanding of why I am the way I am, but instead of feeling frustrated and confused like I did, I feel more accepting of everything. I feel better prepared to deal with things that will be thrown at me in the future, and less inclined to hide away. And I’ve learnt that I can change the way I think – it is possible – and that alone is having a really positive impact on my life.
Nothing seems as grey as it did 3 months ago – and for that I owe Chris a massive gigantic thank you!

From my clients

"I initially sought help from Chris having suffered from generalised anxiety and panic attacks. This had become so significant that it was beginning to take a toll on my work and family life and my physical health, not least becauseTestimonial

I have been struggling to cope with bereavement and the negative thinking associated with it. Chris helped me explore these thoughts, using CBT and to rationalise them. Confidentiality was important to me, and Chris was able to build rapport quickly,Testimonial from Counselling

I found my time at the sessions extremely useful and feel I now have the techniques to cope with everyday situations and my work life. "Onwards and Upwards". I'm looking forward to taking control of my life. Thank you veryTestimonial from Counselling

Seeing Chris individually within couple counselling helped us both to understand how to deal with our issues and work together. CBT is effective for relationship development.Seeing Chris individually within couple counselling

I have felt that CBT and coming here has helped me so much. I don't know what I would have done without all this help and support. It has opened up my eyes and made me believe I amTestimonial

Chris is a miracle worker! I came to her with some serious self worth issues and have left a more positive, confident and bubblier person.Chris guided me through some very difficult experiences whilst also teaching me some coping techniques andTestimonial after just 7 sessions

My Anxiety was spiralling out of control and I felt like my worries and fears were controlling my present and future. I can now rationalise, explore and 'sledgehammer' (a perfect choice of word coined by Chris) negative thoughts. I canTestimonial from Counselling

I have learnt a new outlook on life. I feel far more relaxed about life's challenges and I feel I can deal with many things positively. I generally feel happier and positive about the future.Testimonial from Counselling

I am writing this testimony as an endorsement of Chris Benfield, I was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. A big part of this is to do with my weight I have always been larger framed however I am relativelyTestimonial from Counselling

I can't believe how much CBT has changed my thinking, I was always over thinking things and feeling stressed in social situations. I am using what Chris has taught me and now when anything comes up that before would haveTestimonial from Counselling